#275 farewell to the woman I most admired

On Monday, October 4th, I paid my last respect to the woman I admired most (blog #39 written on March 2008) at Sri Temasek. 


Glad it was an overcast afternoon when I had to queue for almost an hour at the entrance of the Istana before boarding a van which brought us to Sri Temasek where we had to queue again before entering the room. This time I was pleasantly greeted with beautiful Bach music played on cello filling the room with quietness, serenity and peace that brought tears to my eyes while waiting for others to assemble to give our last respect. 

Mrs Lee Kuan Yew nee Madam Kwa Geok Choo entered gloryland on Saturday 2nd October 2010 who had left Singapore women an extraordinary example: her husband claimed she was his tower of strength. Those words speak volume. Words cannot describe all that she had quietly professed to live — silent yet loud; low profile yet shining and bright. What a good fight our late Mrs Lee, founding mother, had fought!

The late Mrs Lee also represents the 1st generation of Singaporean women, born or adopted, who valiantly fought beside their husbands to make Singapore where she is today.

#129 bad question

I heard on the BBC International when a journalist asked a white caucasian south african this question:

“Will you consider marrying a black?”

Personally I find the journalist has worded her question to the ordinary citizen not only badly but offensively and irresponsibly.

This is one way to arouse more hate and vengeance! Is she out to suggest there is racial discrimination? Woe betide!

The issue in question is not about marrying another race — the issue is marriage, full stop! Obviously the journalist has yet to understand what married life is about.

Marriage is more than the lovey dovey expressions often portrayed in the media when two persons committed living together and happy hereafter.

The reality of married life is living with differences and reconciling those differences steming from one’s upbringing, education, background and lifestyle.

Two different races marrying will inevitably have to rise above more insurmountable differences.

Here the journalist’s question refers to a mixed marriage.

There is a wide yawning gap here for the young married couple — much greater adjustments to hurdle and in due time, money or lack of money is the issue which is one of top list of causes to marriage breakdown!


#128 marriage

These days, some men expect their wives to bring in the bacon! These days macho men are nowhere to be found. These men prefer to be house-husbands rather than face the harsh reality in the dog-fight world.

Do these men marry for convenience? They would rather gossip on the phone in the day. Where is love? What is love?

They would abuse the emotionally weak and self-diffident but scholarly qualified wives with words. These wives were caught in the dilemma of providing for their children and home.

If there was money to survive the family will be at peace, otherwise the man will hurl unkind words to deliberately wound the wife. Is there protection for such wives?

Today I hear jubilation a gay marriage took place in the west. Progress or advance society? Free society? 

It’s all about making money and business. It appears the wedding business for gays or homophiles rakes in cash!!!

Where there is marriage, there is divorce. So the lawyers or solicitors will have business too! The relevant sectors benefit.

In the 1960’s the young prefer to cohabit rather than tie knots. So we have a generation where the man and woman live together and bear children with no marriage certificate to prove the couple exists. Today…

In short, today, everything is done in the name of MONEY. Money has become a god.

Where is humanity? What is humanity? What is man? Has man reduced himself to animals…exploitation…



During my morning walks, I casually had a conversation with a lady walking her dog. She revealed she was in the process of getting divorce.

Is there a bug going around? Lately, I’d been hearing divorces and separations.

This case was 11 years marriage between a Japanese and an Indian. He was a much older man; and no children.

Is this marriage out of convenience? Instead of hiring a maid, this man married one to take care of him and his household? Will he honor his alimony since they are from different countries?